Welcome to Wise Village Mama!
My name is Kacie and I’m 33, from Decatur, TX. I started this blog as a safe place for mamas of every stage, those who are expecting, those who already have one or more kids, and even those who just want a future family someday. And even if you don’t want kids, there’s something for you here, too.
Because the truth being told, I also didn’t want kids, ever. Even when we found out I’m pregnant, I still wasn’t excited immediately. Does that make me less of a loving mother? No, because from the first minute, all I cared about was protecting that little life with everything I am. I started thinking back on anything I’ve ever said or done in unknowing preparation to conceive, and felt immediate guilt. Guilt for the alcoholic beverages I had in the weeks before we found out (which btw, we found out at 5w2d because I track my cycle religiously using the Apple Health app on my iPhone). Guilt for letting work take place of exercise. Guilt for not eating healthier, even though I’m naturally a very healthy eater. But it turned into something so wonderful because caring for our unborn baby has led me to care more about everything from what I put in my mouth to everything I put on my body, including my hair care and skin care routines! (More about those on my Instagram).
It also made me realize, that there is absolutely no shame in experiencing a happy surprise of a baby, and there is no shame in not wanting kids, even when you find out you’re having one. We live in such a day and age that women my age were oftentimes raised under the stipulation that you grow up, go to college, get married, and start having babies, which only differs from the age old adage that you grow up, get married, and start having babies in that women are now seeking further education beyond high school. For so long, it seemed that women were becoming more and more career oriented (myself included) and the idea of having a family seemed further and further away.
As I’ve stepped into the role of mom-to-be, and started looking at other options for our family and our lifestyle, I’m seeing that there are more and more opportunities for moms to stay at home with their babies, still put their educations to use, and contribute to their households financially, emotionally, logistically, and then some, which I feel is ultimately leading us back to having a family focus from a younger age.
Mind you, I don’t feel that any of these ideas are right, wrong, or indifferent, these are merely my observations, but having grown up in a traditional to old-fashioned household, I do tend to see things as my parents do. This blog is intended to catch all of those, who are already with me, who want to see and do things the way I do, and who are just looking for a community of other mamas out there who believe it takes a village to raise a child.
I’m 22w pregnant today. Drop me a comment and let me know where you are in your pregnancy, if you already have kids, or if you want kids in the future!
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